Many of us have experienced heartache and disappointment in relationships. If you've never had this to happen, you are definitely an anomaly! I wouldn't wish that pain on my worst enemy. We tend to lose ourselves in the desire to be loved and to have love all at the same time settling just to say we "have somebody" when in reality we truly do not.
I've had my share of heartaches and pains as well as employed those same things onto others. Once I realized that I'm no longer settling just to have someone and that I love me more than anyone ever could, I knew then that I was done with games. Sometimes we long for something so badly that we can't see past the smoke and mirrors to see the real situation at hand.
Sis...you don't have to settle. You are loved and worth being loved by the right person. You won't have to share and you definitely won't have to prove your love by accepting bullshit. I get it...lonely is no fun. If I had to weigh my options..I'm choosing lonely over tears of heartache. I've accepted the fact that not everyone is ready for me and I'm damn sure not accepting everyone.
Although I still love my ex, I am no longer accepting bullshit as the main course. Digesting extra drama upsets my palate so I'll sit alone and starve. The older I get the less tolerate of bullshit I am. I find myself often times reverting back to "proving" I am worthy of love and that my change has been for the better. Then I'm reminded that I don't need to prove myself to anyone. I am who I am...take it or leave it. Either way we both learn a lesson.
Anybody can be faithful...if they want to. I know this is breaking news but yes IT'S YOUR CHOICE! You can't make anyone change their behavior. Just like you can't make them love you the way you want to be loved. On the flip side, if you've never had a conversation about how you want to be loved and vice versa, you can't expect them to understand. Now listen
..if you've had that conversation and the same behavior is there, I'll go ahead and let you know they don't care...that's the hard truth.
None of us are free from sin, yet we do have a voice in how or if we act on it. Waiting, hoping and wishing someone will change is only helping you to miss out on what/who is already ready for you. Settling went out with the trash. If you don't do nothing else after reading this post...LOVE YOU MORE.
LR WILSON, FOUNDER
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